It"s Valentine"s Day, Do You Know Where Your Heart Is?

- KANAB, UT, February 05, 2007 - When most people think of Valentine"s Day, images of little candies that say, "Be Mine", kids trading Valentine"s cards, flowers, lingerie pop into our heads in a colorful spendor of love.

But the reality of Valentine"s Day for most people is a portrait not shaped like a heart but of disappointment and breakup. "For a vast majority of people, this is a holiday of dread that takes us back to the stereotypes of the male/female bond," Says Howard Bronson, co-author of the best-selling book How To Heal A Broken Heart in 30 Days. And he should know. Along with his co-author noted journalist and brand-consultant Michael Riley, they receive hundreds of e-mails, especially in February. "It throws the process of equality and feminism right out the window and replaces it with almost childlike insecurity."

" This is the time of year when the emails we receive take on a desperate tone," noted Bronson and surprisingly, from people in relationships. "This holiday which is supposed to be a celebration of love, has morphed into a time of "heart-checking" when everybody seems to desperately ask if they"re truly happy in their love and in their lives in general."

Bronson notes that this is an especially difficult time for men in relationships. "Just look at their desperation at the card rack or flower counters as they frantically try to do the right thing and feel that whatever they do, will not be enough.

Those little candies may be partly to blame, as well as all of the other elements commonly associated with this holiday that we all grew up with that raise expectations to an absolutely impossible level, especially, from women who often become more vulnerable and insecure around this time. "But they don"t blame the candies, they blame their partners," notes Bronson.

Bronson says there are five things people can do to make Valentines Day into the happy holiday that it used to be for most people:

1)Don"t bottle up all of your emotions just for this holiday. Instead, find something to celebrate about love each day, no matter how small and do something to celebrate love with a friend or partner at least once each week.

2)Don"t expect another to make up for your own deficits about love. Issues of lack of love generally have to do with ourselve vs. anyone else.

3)Don"t hide behind flowers, candies and other gifts. The best gift is to actually say something kid, sweet and celebratory directly to a friend or signifigant other.

4)Make reflection a kindly process. Examine what you yourself can do to make love work more effectively in your relationship. Criticism doesn"t achieve anything. Love is an action word. Take real action that shows love. Don"t try to buy your partner"s affection or approval.

5) If anything, make this a time of thanks. Try to see how many things you can thank your partner for and then, do it, over and over again.


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